Domestic Violence Program

BELIEFS THAT CONTRIBUTE TO DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

• He has the right to monitor her life (activities, friends, financial.)
• He has the right to tell her where she can go and when she should return.
• If she had a life of her own, he wouldn't be able to control her and get what he wants.
• He has the right to monitor and control who she sees and talks to, especially men.
  
• "Why do you have to put on makeup to go to the grocery store?"
• "No wife of mine is going to dress like that. Who are you trying to impress?"
• "I hate it when guys look at you that way."
• "You're not going to your parents house this Saturday. You're going to help me clean the basement."
• "I don't want you hanging out with those stupid friends of yours."

• "Is it too much to ask to have dinner on the table, keep the house clean and keep the damn kids quiet?"
• "I work long and hard every day to pay the bills, what more do you want from me?"

• He is not responsible for his behavior.
• If she pushes his buttons, she deserves to be punished.
• She is blamed for many of the things that go wrong at home or in his personal life.
  
• "I can yell if I want"
• "I'm not paying child support so she can have fun with her new boyfriend."
• "One thing about my last partner, she knew how to make a man feel good."
• "So I called her lazy, punched a hole in the wall and went out to get something to eat. It's not like I hurt anyone. All I ask is that she have food on the table when I get home."
• "It's your fault I lost my job."
• "If you would quit acting so stupid I wouldn't have to yell and scream."

• He should be the center of her world.
• She is supposed to anticipate his needs and meet them to his satisfaction.
• Women are not equal to men.
• He has the right to judge her family and friends.
  
• "Why do you work? You've got enough to keep you busy right here."
• "What do you mean you need money for groceries? I just gave you food money last Friday."
• "Why haven't you put the kids to bed? Can't you see I need some tonight?"